Sunday, May 12, 2013

Pakistan marks democratic milestone in violence-marred poll

By Katharine Houreld and Mehreen Zahra-Malik

ISLAMABAD (Reuters) - Pakistanis began voting on Saturday in a landmark election that will bring the first transition between civilian governments in a country ruled by the military for more than half of its turbulent history.

The people of Pakistan hope the polls will deliver change and ease frustrations with a feeble economy, widespread corruption, chronic power cuts and crumbling infrastructure.

Disenchantment with the two mainstream parties appeared this week to have brought a late surge of support for former cricket star Imran Khan, who could end up holding the balance of power if there is no clear-cut winner.

If that happens, weeks of haggling to form a coalition will follow, which would raise the risk that the government is undermined by instability.

That would only make it more difficult to reverse the disgust with politicians felt among the country's 180 million people and drive through the reforms needed to revive its near-failed economy.

Power cuts can last more than 10 hours a day in some places, crippling key industries like textiles, and a new International Monetary Fund bailout may be needed soon.

Dozens of people have been killed in the run-up to the vote by the al-Qaeda-linked Pakistan Taliban, which regards the poll as un-Islamic and has vowed to disrupt the process with suicide bombings.

The Taliban have focused their anger on secular-leaning parties like the outgoing coalition led by the Pakistan People's Party (PPP).

On Saturday, an office of the Awami National Party (ANP) in the northwest was blown up. There were no immediate reports of casualties.

In commercial hub Karachi, Pakistan's biggest city, a blast at the office of an ANP candidate killed three people and wounded 20, police and hospital sources said.

"The problems facing the new government will be immense, and this may be the last chance that the country's existing elites have to solve them," said Anatol Lieven, a professor at King's College, London, and author of a book on Pakistan.

"If the lives of ordinary Pakistanis are not significantly improved over the next five years, a return to authoritarian solutions remains a possibility," Lieven wrote in a column in the Financial Times on Friday.

The army stayed out of politics during the five years of the last government, but it still sets the nuclear-armed country's foreign and security policy and will steer the thorny relationship with Washington as NATO troops withdraw from neighboring Afghanistan next year.

The party of former prime minister Nawaz Sharif looks set to win the most seats in the one-day vote, which got under way across the country at 8 a.m. (0300 GMT).

However, Khan's dark-horse challenge could deprive Sharif of a majority and dash his hopes for a return to power 14 years after he was ousted in a military coup, jailed and later exiled.

Pakistan's best-known sportsman, who led a playboy lifestyle in his younger days, Khan is seen by many as a refreshing change from the dynastic politicians who long relied on a patronage system to win votes and are often accused of corruption.

THREAT OF ATTACKS

Voters will elect 272 members of the National Assembly and to win a simple majority, a party would have to take 137 seats.

However, the election is complicated by the fact that a further 70 seats, most reserved for women and members of non- Muslim minorities, are allocated to parties on the basis of their performance in the contested constituencies. To have a majority of the total of 342, a party would need 172.

Khan appeals mostly to young, urban voters because of his calls for an end to corruption, a new political landscape and a halt to U.S. drone strikes on Pakistani soil.

The 60-year-old is in hospital after injuring himself in a fall at a party rally, which may also win him sympathy votes.

Early opinion polls had put the share of votes for his Tehrik-i-Insaf (PTI) party as low as single figures. However, a survey released on Wednesday showed 24.98 percent of voters nationally planned to vote for his party, just a whisker behind Sharif's Pakistan Muslim League (PML-N).

The Herald magazine poll showed Sharif's party remained the front-runner in Punjab, which, with the largest share of parliamentary seats, usually dictates the outcome of elections.

It also pointed to an upset for the PPP, which led the last government, placing it third. Pakistan's politics have long been dominated by the PML-N and the PPP, whose most prominent figure is President Asif Ali Zardari, widower of assassinated former premier Benazir Bhutto.

"The PPP didn't take care of the poor masses and always engages in corrupt practices whenever they come to power," said Sher Nabi, a banker from Peshawar.

"So we've decided to vote for the PTI candidate this time and test Imran Khan to see if he proves as honest as he claims."

Pakistan, which prides itself on its democratic credentials, ordered the New York Times bureau chief in Islamabad to leave the country on the eve of national elections, the newspaper said on Friday.

A two-sentence letter was delivered by police officers to the home of the bureau chief, Declan Walsh, at 12:30 a.m. local time on Thursday, it said.

"It is informed that your visa is hereby canceled in view of your undesirable activities," the Times quoted the letter as saying. "You are therefore advised to leave the country within 72 hours."

(Additional reporting by Mehreen Zahra-Malik in ISLAMABAD, Gul Yousafzai in QUETTA, Mubasher Bukhari in LAHORE and Jibran Ahmed in PESHAWAR; Editing by Daniel Magnowski)

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He'll want that one back

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updated 11:11 p.m. ET May 10, 2013

ST. LOUIS (AP) - Shelby Miller gave up a single to start the game then nothing else. Not a walk or a hit batter. No one even reached on an error.

Nothing.

The St. Louis Cardinals rookie was perfect after that leadoff single by Eric Young Jr., retiring 27 in a row for his first career complete game, 3-0 over the Colorado Rockies on Friday night.

"I feel really good," Miller said. "It's definitely the best game I've thrown in my life. How it finished was unbelievable. It was a great experience. Yadi (catcher Yadier Molina) was calling a great game and they were making great plays for me. It was a start I'll remember the rest of my life."

Miller (5-2) struck out Young to end it with his 13th K, tying a Cardinals rookie record.

Young felt fortunate just to reach base at all.

"It was a jam shot and I just put it in a good location," Young said. "I was just fortunate enough to find grass.

"He was working both sides of the plate, using his fastball. He had great command," Young added. "His battery mate back there is obviously one of the best game. It was a good combo for them."

Miller agreed with Young's assessment of Molina.

"I say it time and time again, what Yadi calls, I throw," Miller said. "He was calling the right thing all night. He's done a terrific job all year and he's helping me out tremendously. I'm happy he's my catcher, that's for sure."

The one-hitter was the fewest hits allowed by a Cardinals pitcher since Bud Smith tossed a no-hitter on Sept. 3, 2001, and it was the second one-hitter of the night in the major leagues. Boston's Jon Lester was perfect until he allowed a two-out double in the sixth against Toronto.

In a near-perfect performance, Miller threw 113 pitches.

"It's pretty incredible," St. Louis manager Mike Matheny said. "How he held his composure, made real good pitches all night long against a very good offense."

Miller lowered his ERA to 1.39, which is the lowest for a Cardinals pitcher in his first eight starts since Howie Pollet had a 2.09 ERA in his first eight in 1941.

Carlos Beltran hit a solo homer - his ninth - for St. Louis. Pete Kozma added an RBI single and Jon Jay a sacrifice fly for the Cardinals, who are National League-best 22-12.

Molina had two hits to extend his hitting streak to 10 games, which is the longest for a Cardinal this season.

Rockies starter Jon Garland (2-3) gave up all three runs in five innings. Garland allowed seven hits and three walks while striking out five.

Garland retired the first five batters he faced before Jay singled to center with two outs in the second. David Freese walked, and Kozma drove home Jay with a single to left.

Beltran made it 2-0 when he hit Garland's first pitch of the third inning 409 feet into the seats in right. Jay gave the Cardinals a three-run cushion with a sacrifice fly in the fifth.

NOTES: Dick Hughes and Scipio Spinks also struck out 13 for the Cardinals as rookies. ... Molina is batting .461 (18 for 39) during his hitting streak. ... Colorado has not won a series in St. Louis since sweeping four games from June 5-8, 2009. ... Jay extended his hitting streak to seven games with his second-inning single. ... Garland is 1-6 with 6.61 ERA in his career against St. Louis. ... Former Cy Young award winner Chris Carpenter took another step toward possibly returning to the mound by tossing a pain-free bullpen session. The 38-year-old's career appeared as if it may be over when it was announced in February that he was unlikely to pitch in 2013 because he was still experiencing chronic pain in his neck, shoulder and arm. Friday's bullpen session was the fourth for Carpenter, who tossed about 70 pitches.

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Brood II: After 17 years, billions of eastern US cicadas rise again

After 17 years out of sight and under foot, billions of noisy, bulge-eyed Brood II cicadas are crawling out of the ground in the eastern US to mate, hatch offspring, and start the cycle anew.

By Pete Spotts / May 7, 2013

Any day now, cicadas with bulging red eyes like this one, seen in 2003, will creep out of the ground after 17 years and overrun the East Coast with the awesome power of numbers. Big numbers. Billions. Maybe even a trillion. For a few buggy weeks, residents from North Carolina to Connecticut will be outnumbered by 600 to 1. Maybe more.

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If you live on the East Coast and enjoy a walk in the woods or a tree-filled park, for the past 17 years you almost certainly have been walking over buried, juvenile cicadas, one of the most remarkable ? and annoying ? insects on the planet.

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Now, it's their turn on stage. Between now and June in the eastern US, the insects are emerging from underground in a kind of Rolling Thunder Review from south to north as soils grow toasty enough to signal break-out time.

Over four to six weeks, males will sing to attract females. Pairs will hook up. Billions of tiny offspring will hatch from eggs the females deposit in trees. The tiny offspring will plummet to the ground and burrow back into the soil weeks after their parents ? every winged, bulge-eyed one of them that hasn't been eaten by a bird, raccoon, or chipmunk ? depart this vale of tears.

While most of the current sightings are east of the Appalachian Mountains, the bugs are appearing in the southern Plains as well, from Texas north to Nebraska, although these may be stragglers from a different brood. (Broods are identified by region, cycle length of 13 or 17 years, and years in which they reappear. The bugs appearing in the eastern US belong to Brood II.)

These ?periodic? cicadas pose no serious threat to humans, although they can sting a bit if they mistake you for a tree, entomologists say.

Estimates put underground, periodic cicada populations at from tens of thousands to as many as 1.5 million individuals per acre. And they boast the longest life span of any insect, according to researchers Walter Koenig at Cornell University and Andrew Liebhold, with the US Forest Service's Northeastern Research Station in Morgantown, W. Va.

While the bugs have prompted people to alter wedding dates and forestall planting new, young trees until after the cicadas' festivities end, they play a number of roles in forest ecology, researchers say.

?There still are a lot of mysteries about how periodical cicadas interact in forest ecosystems,? says Dr. Liebhold, but one clear role seems be as a source of nutrients for forest soils.

Once the adults die and fall out of the trees and shrubs they occupied, they decompose. That tends to trap nutrients close to the roots, where the food is less vulnerable to leaching from the soil. This fertilizer feeds the trees and shrubs directly. It also feeds the next generation of cicadas indirectly because the nymphs that burrowed into the ground feed off fluids that move through small roots.

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America's Cup boat nosedived, broke into pieces

FILE - In this Aug. 21, 2008, file photo, gold medalist Andrew Simpson,of Britain, smiles during the medal ceremony for the Star class sailing competition of the 2008 Beijing Olympics in Qingdao, China, about 720 kilometers southeast of Beijing. Simpson died the Thursday, May 9, 2013, when Artemis Racing's AC72 catamaran, an America's Cup entry from Sweden, capsized during training in San Francisco Bay, trapping him underwater. (AP Photo/Herbert Knosowski, File)

FILE - In this Aug. 21, 2008, file photo, gold medalist Andrew Simpson,of Britain, smiles during the medal ceremony for the Star class sailing competition of the 2008 Beijing Olympics in Qingdao, China, about 720 kilometers southeast of Beijing. Simpson died the Thursday, May 9, 2013, when Artemis Racing's AC72 catamaran, an America's Cup entry from Sweden, capsized during training in San Francisco Bay, trapping him underwater. (AP Photo/Herbert Knosowski, File)

The Artemis Racing AC72 catamaran, an America's Cup entry from Sweden, lies capsized after flipping over during training in San Francisco Bay on Thursday, May 9, 2013, in San Francisco. Artemis Racing said Andrew "Bart" Simpson, an Olympic gold medalist from Great Britain, died after the capsized boat's platform trapped him underwater for about 10 minutes. Behind are the historic buildings of the Angel Island internment camp. (AP Photo/Noah Berger)

FILE - In this Aug. 21, 2008, file photo, Britain's Iain Percy, right, and Andrew Simpson, smile during the medal ceremony of the Star class sailing competition of the Beijing Olympics in Qingdao, China. They won the gold medal. Artemis Racing says Simpson died Thursday, May 9, 2013, after the team's boat capsized during training for the upcoming America's Cup in San Francisco Bay. (AP Photo/Herbert Knosowski, File)

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Artemis Racing CEO Paul Cayard speaks during a news conference in Alameda, Calif., Thursday, May 9, 2013. Artemis Racing said Andrew "Bart" Simpson, an Olympic gold medalist from England, died after the platform on the team's capsized catamaran trapped him underwater for about 10 minutes, during training for the America's Cup. (AP Photo/Jeff Chiu)

(AP) ? The America's Cup catamaran that capsized in San Francisco Bay, killing an Olympic gold medalist, nosedived during a difficult maneuver and broke into many pieces, an official said Friday.

However, it remained unclear why the Artemis flipped on Thursday, trapping crew member Andrew "Bart" Simpson under the wreckage for at least 10 minutes.

America's Cup organizers also said Friday it was unclear what affect the fatality might have on the series of races scheduled to begin on July 6.

"Nothing is off the table," said Stephen Barclay, chief executive of the America's Cup Event Authority. "We need to know what happened."

Murray said America's Cup organizers have launched an investigation. The San Francisco Police Department is also looking into the incident.

Another organizing official, Iain Murray, said conditions Thursday afternoon were typical on San Francisco Bay, which often sees hard-blowing winds. The Artemis was operating in winds of 15 to 20 knots, with occasionally stiffer gusts.

Murray said Artemis Racing's catamaran was attempting to change direction and turn down wind when it capsized. Though difficult, the maneuver was normal, he said.

Murray said Simpson was on a trampoline on the windward side of the yacht with crew members and got trapped under some solid sections of the yacht, out of site to those on board who were looking for him.

"How he got to where he got to we do not know," Murray said.

Simpson, 36, was a strategist for the team that represents a Swedish yacht club. The crew was practicing with the Oracle team.

"Artemis and Oracle were out there training in what they had been doing for months," Murray said. "And looking frankly quite good."

Artemis officials didn't attend a Friday news conference and didn't return phone calls. Oracle Racing agreed to suspend its training until Monday.

"Andrew Simpson was a hugely accomplished sailor and Olympian," International Olympic Committee President Jacques Rogge, a former Olympic sailor from Belgium, said in a statement to The Associated Press. "He died pursuing his sporting passion."

It was the second time a sailor has died during training for the America's Cup. In 1999, Martin Wizner of the Spanish Challenge died almost instantly when he was hit in the head by a broken piece of equipment.

No deaths have been recorded during the actual racing since its inception in 1851.

Simpson and his partner Iain Percy won an Olympic gold medal for England in 2008 in the Star class of sailing. The duo was expected to repeat in London in 2012 but was upset by a Swedish team and settled for silver.

Artemis Racing has had its share of upheaval in the buildup to the 34th America's Cup. Late last year, skipper Terry Huthinson of Annapolis, Md., was released. He was replaced by Nathan Outteridge of Australia, who won a gold medal at the London Olympics.

The team has had technical problems, as well. Last fall, Artemis said the front beam of its AC72 catamaran was damaged during structural tests, delaying the boat's christening. A year ago, Artemis' AC72 wing sail sustained serious damage while it was being tested on a modified trimaran in Spain.

The Artemis wasn't the first America's Cup boat to capsize on the wind-swept San Francisco Bay. Oracle's $10 million boat capsized in 25-knot winds in October, and strong tides swept it four miles past the Golden Gate Bridge.

No one was injured, but the rough waters destroyed the 131-foot wing sail.

It was too soon to answer questions about the safety of the high-tech boats on the San Francisco Bay, Barclay said.

"Obviously a catamaran is more prone to capsizing than a mono-hull," he said. "Whether boats are safe or unsafe, we're not going to speculate on those things."

In addition to sailors wearing crash helmets and life vests, chase boats carry doctors and divers, Barclay said.

"There are lots of precautions that are taken, and some of those are as a result of Oracle's mishap last year," he said.

The catamarans have proved hard to handle. The wing sail looks and acts like an airplane wing, improving the yacht's speed and maneuverability. The 7-ton boat's hulls are lifted out of the water and it skims along the waves on "foils," reducing the drag on the boat and increasing speed dramatically.

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Associated Press writers Terry Collins, Sudhin Thanawala and Garance Burke contributed to this report.

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BCE posts higher profit on flat revenue

TORONTO (Reuters) - BCE Inc , Canada's biggest telecom provider, reported higher profit on flat revenue on Thursday, helped by earnings growth in its wireless and media divisions.

The Montreal-based parent of Bell Canada said it signed up almost 60,000 net postpaid subscribers for its wireless service in the first quarter and the average monthly bill of a Bell wireless customer rose almost 4 percent to C$55.92.

BCE, which together with Rogers Communications Inc and Telus Corp dominates the Canadian wireless market, said it remains on track to hit its earnings targets for the full year.

Postpaid subscriber figures are watched closely because those customers, who often sign multiyear contracts and use the latest smartphones, typically pay four times more each month than prepaid subscribers.

Churn, the average proportion of Bell subscribers that cancel their service each month, improved to 1.25 percent for postpaid customers, from 1.35 percent a year earlier.

BCE said its first-quarter net earnings rose to C$566 million, or 73 Canadian cents a share, from C$531 million, or 69 Canadian cents, a year earlier.

Operating revenue was C$4.92 billion, compared with C$4.91 billion a year earlier.

On an adjusted basis, the company earned 77 cents a share. Analysts had on average expected BCE to earn 71 Canadian cents a share on revenue of C$4.96 million, according to Thomson Reuters I/B/E/S.

EYEING ASSETS

BCE has in recent years moved aggressively to secure ownership of news, sports, films and other content distributed via its television and Internet services.

The company is currently seeking regulatory approval for a revised C$3 billion bid for its biggest content provider, Astral Media Inc .

The regulator, the Canadian Radio-television and Telecommunications Commission, rejected BCE's first offer for Astral in October, citing the inordinate influence it would give BCE. [ID:nL1E8LIF1L]

The company has since agreed to divest some Astral pay and specialty television channels.

But critics told a hearing this week that the smaller deal does not preclude Bell from manipulating the market by setting exorbitant rates for the premium content it owns.

BCE bought CTV, then Canada's largest private broadcaster, in 2011.

Last year, it teamed up with Rogers to buy the owner of the National Hockey League's Toronto Maple Leafs and a stable of other sports assets.

(Reporting by Alastair Sharp; Editing by Gerald E. McCormick and Alden Bentley)

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This Mother's Day, I'm grateful for my mom's failure as a housekeeper

I grew up in a messy house. It?s hard to write those words. But the fact is, I come from a ?creative? family, and creativity comes with a lot of stuff.

But lately, as I read various essays debating whether women can really ?have it all,? I feel grateful that my mom was a failed housekeeper. I remember her explaining to me that while our family might not have a perfect house, we had the important things ? loving relationships and meaningful work. My mom was busy ?having it all?: raising two kids and pursuing a successful second career as an artist. She knew what ?it all? meant to her.

So this Mother?s Day, I want to thank my mom, Gloria Blasz Logan, for her messy house and the lessons she taught me about being a woman.

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My dad, like his dad, is an obsessive collector ? Hawaiian shirts, watches, books, poetry journals, ugly Christmas sweaters (not kidding), you name it. An introverted writer like me, he read endless piles of newspapers and magazines, turning them into hundreds of tiny clippings that covered the dining room table.

He never met a yard sale or a used bookstore that he didn?t like. And he wasn?t selfish in his shopping proclivities: For us kids, he filled an entire room of the house with toys. We called it ?the toy room,? and it remained full long after we outgrew play dates.

My dad wasn?t a hoarder, but he accumulated far more than he ever threw away, and he didn?t like people messing with his stuff. If my mom hired someone to clean the house, it was an invitation to a standoff. A professional painter, gregarious volunteer, and voracious reader, she wasn?t as much of a collector, but she had never been a neatnik. If she disliked cleaning to begin with, my dad?s habits made her truly hate it.

Having a beautiful house just wasn?t important to my parents. And while their cluttered, bourgeois-bohemian lifestyle sounds cool now, it didn?t feel that way when I was living under their roof. My classmates at private school lived in houses that were pristine. I rarely brought friends over, and my parents, who were equally self-conscious, sometimes even discouraged it.

Not being able to bring a friend home from school like a ?normal? kid was painful at times. But looking back, I see my mother was modeling liberated womanhood in a way that has shaped me much more than my shame about our unkempt dining room.

Turns out, a messy house just might be the new feminist manifesto.

In her recent New York Magazine cover story ?The Feminist Housewife,? Lisa Miller cited a survey from the Families and Work Institute, in which women said that they hated doing housework and yearned for more free time. Yet when the women had more free time, they used it to clean. (Unlike my mom, apparently these women didn?t need to read all of Proust.)

?Psychologists suggest that perhaps American women are heirs and slaves to some atavistic need to prove their worth through domestic perfectionism,? Miller wrote.

Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg also writes about the unequal division of household chores in her best-seller ?Lean In,? encouraging women to make their partners ?real partners? ? in other words, loosening their domestic perfectionism so that men can be involved at home.

If you have time to lean, you don?t have time to clean, my mom might say.

But seriously, isn?t the constant pressure to have a beautiful house just an extension of the pressure women feel to be beautiful? While we teach young girls not to define themselves through their appearances, we seem to have no problem letting adult women be defined by whether or not the dishes are done.

My mom, God bless her, didn?t spend much time worrying about what other people thought. Sure, she occasionally felt guilty and embarrassed, but mostly she was unapologetic and defiant.

Our messy house was also a lesson about relationships. Instead of trying to change my dad, my mom chose to accept him ? clutter, flaws, and all. She always looked at the positive: ?Some men gamble or have affairs. Your father just wants to buy some used books.?

As for me, I take after my dad in a big way, so ?naturally,? for my own partner, I?ve chosen an industrial designer who worships minimalism. But like my mom, my boyfriend is incredibly kind and doesn?t judge based on appearances. And like my dad, my boyfriend is looking for a lot more than a domestic goddess.

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That?s why I find myself writing tonight, in a new apartment, surrounded by boxes I?m in no hurry to unpack. It?s about to be Mother?s Day, when we celebrate mom for how perfect she is. Or, for me, just the opposite.

Liz Logan is a freelance writer and editor. Her work has appeared in Time; O, The Oprah Magazine; and Martha Stewart Living, among other publications.

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